Where is No, in the Waters of Yes?
Isn’t this inevitable, this exploration? Best to meet it head-on than focusing on the yes all of the time…or is it?
First and foremost, this blog and these waters are an exploration – empassioned, curious, and admittedly courageous for me, because they are unchartered. What I am feeling and tracking and trusting is this new “compass” bearing that has me deep in the “waters of yes.”
So when a “no,” comes up, have I left these waters? Is my compass off? Or are these voices from…somewhere else, other than where I am right now?
Honestly, this “yes” resides not as a voice in my head but as a sensation, a feeling, a palpable gravity, light and with substance, in my heart. When I speak it, my heart is nourished…because I am acknowledging a choosing to be in relationship with my heart and the source of its beating. BIG. Very BIG !
The “no” resides in my head, or in my gut in the place that is afraid, intentionally protective and safe. No judgment but clearly different ways to be in the world…
This bears repeating, “No judgment, but clearly different ways to be in the world.”
And this is where choice enters the exploration. What exactly am I choosing with a “no” or a “yes?”
A “no” strikes me as threatening to something inside of us that feels threatened and we feel the need to protect this part of us.
A “yes” strikes me as life-affirming, embracing, and accepting of something inside of us that is inspired and wants to meet the opportunity of what’s possible.
One is safe. The other is an invitation.
I recognize this is a very simple framing of these two forces in our lives…and forces they are.
One protects the inner life force of our selves, the other welcomes the life force of the world, into our lives.
And this is where a practice is being nurtured in me to acknowledge and hear my “no” and see it for what it is and ALSO give myself the room to explore the possibility of a more refined understanding of where the “yes” might be in our conversation, our situation or a circumstance.
What I am discovering, daily, many times daily, is I am preferring these waters of yes, and that more of what life is offering, is flowing through me as a result. I am more IN relationship, with my “yes.”
