Just watched the Netflix Doc on Martha Stewart.
She has impacted every woman’s life I know. And many of the men. Now this is much more specific than I typically reflect on but she said something that we have all seen intuitively or have heard about her. And she said it out loud.
A rough quote, “I am not interested in people’s emotions and what they are feeling. I am interested in what they are DOING.”
There it is – a form of navigation in the waters of our lives. Feelings sidelined and the doing, front-center. Each has some version of currency in our lives to some degree but here’s someone who just figured it had no relevance, the feelings…to unpack this psychologically from childhood traumas, etc. is not necessary, at least here.
What intrigues me is the language of emotions are just dropped with this approach and the focus is purely on the doing.
It’s as if one of the dials on my compass has been removed entirely. True north is still there but I’m not asking or reflecting on how it feels.
Maybe an easier example is it’s not about how I feel about the weather or the temperature of the waters, it’s about me doing…through the weather and in the waters.
The quick reflection is about AI and emotions and how that gets accounted for as a variable in any AI generated reply. But a human, who just comes out and says essentially, I have no room or need for emotions in my relationships …it is the doing that fascinates me…there is something pure in this…AND human.
Afterall, look at her results !
And why does this intrigue me ? Because my emotions are fully operational and valued and they add a richness to my experience. The question is how are they impacting my RESULTS?
I will leave this for another reflection but there is an invitation here to re-calibrate the value of these elements – emotions and doing – and to acknowledge the present as a result of this mix and ask, are the results I am experiencing what I mean in my doing? And am I where I want to be in these waters? And if not, what are the levers I can work on to get closer to what I mean and intend.
And what if the lever that reads, Emotions, has no relevance in the actual doing?
